Let's talk about anxiety some more, shall we? I threw it out there that I have anxiety and it sucks. If you missed that one you can read it right here: Anxiety Chronicles. I hate it but who has it and doesn't hate it? I've NEVER met anyone that was like, HELL YEAH I HAVE ANXIETY AND I'M FREAKIN' PUMPED ABOUT IT! Anxiety and hatred for it go hand in hand...it's a package deal.
Here is the thing though, I don't want to be medicated. I have been on medication before (after I had Camy) and I'm definitely not knocking it by any means but I don't want to. I DON'T WANNA! So, I don't take medication. Sounds simple, right? Wrong.
I told you guys before that I don't remember a time of not having anxiety but today I am living almost completely anxiety free. Everyone has their own journey of what works for them but I want to tell you what has worked for me. I hope you'll do what I say and that it works for you too! I know I sound bossy but it's only because I love ya and you deserve to enjoy your life without anxiety.
READY? HERE WE GO!
5 NATURAL WAYS TO KICK ANXIETY IN THE ASS AND OUT OF YOUR LIFE:
Get it (the paper copy not an ebook), read it, let it all sink in and love it. I'm not going to lie to you, it's not a leisurely read but anxiety isn't a vacation. It takes work. The book is simple to understand and explains a lot! By "a lot" I mean that it went into some areas that I wasn't even familiar with and that sort of gave me anxiety because I was reading thinking, "SHIT! I didn't even know that was an option! Maybe now I'll have that disorder! OMG! PANIC!" At the same time it made me aware that if I didn't get myself in check and get this bastard under control I was going to a very dark place. I wouldn't say that I was agoraphobic but I was definitely on my way.
2. Clear Mood!
When I was in my postpartum dark place, as we will now refer to it, my sister suggested I take some Clear Mood by Advocare. If I remember correctly, I rolled my eyes, said it won't work and curled up in the corner and continued shaking like a scared little Chihuahua. She sent some to Chris to crush up in my food...I'm kidding but she sent some and I did some research before popping the pill. I'm sure you know about Advocare because it is wildly popular for weight loss and the 24 day challenge but they also have this fabulous little gem known as Clear Mood. Being the skeptic that I am I discussed it with a nutritionist that was in no way affiliated with Advocare. There are only 3 ingredients and they are exactly what you need to naturally combat anxiety. The natural little pill got the seal of approval so I popped it and HOLY CRAP IT WORKS!! I can tell you more about it if you want but for now trust me and know that it works, doesn't make you sleepy, doesn't make you feel different it just subtracts the edge from the equation. It's a miracle. You can get some right here through me because now I am a Clear Mood pimp! There is also a really delicious little drink called Oasis that is delicious and helps bring ya down a notch. CLEAR MOOD!
3. You know it's coming: Exercise
You don't have to get crazy with it but you've GOT to get moving. Get some sort of sweat or threat of a sweat for 15-20 minutes a day. I know it's difficult some days especially with kids, schedules, work, traffic, making dinner, drinking wine, washing the dog, remembering birthdays and all of the other 800 things you have going on in your head but do it. I PROMISE I wouldn't say it if it weren't true. It helps. I would never lie to you. Promise promise.
4. Phone a Friend!
Find someone who understands, has/had anxiety and is on the other side of it. There is safety in numbers, friends. I owe all of my progress to my girlfriend, Alisha. She is the one that told me about the workbook and was a shoulder for me to lean, cry and panic on. She suffered from anxiety and agoraphobia and beat the shit out of it. She is my rock! She showed me that anxiety isn't my personality, it is something that I can beat. She gave me strength and hope when I had none.
I have so many friends that have anxiety and it's sort of like a little support group. I meet more women that have anxiety than don't. I don't understand why and if I ever find myself with the time I would like to research it. So, find a person that you can confide in, who gets it and will give you hope when you are in your dark place. What's that? You don't know anyone like that?
HELLO! I'M RIGHT HERE!
You have my email address! Use it!
5. Write yourself a love note!
Find your own mantra. I wrote a little note in my phone and when I feel anxiety creeping up on me I read it and put myself in check. This is a totally personal thing. What I have written probably won't work for you because it's specific for my personal anxiety. My suggestion is to use the workbook to combat your triggers and write it down so that you can see that you aren't dying, going to pass out, puke, etc. whatever your trigger is and combine that with your happy place. In mine I have the facts behind that feeling of passing out and dying. I tell myself that it is okay. It is just anxiety. Float with the feeling like I float with the waves in the ocean when I'm in Seaside..which is my happy place. Feel like you are panicking? Pull out your phone and read your love note to yourself...even reading something will take your mind off of shitting your pants for at least a few seconds and not shitting your pants is a total win!
I want you guys to know that I do not think there is anything wrong with medication. I don't think that because I fight this without it I am better or smarter. I'm not. I'm probably just crazier. Not every day is easy but most of them are now. It's my choice to do it this way and how you handle your anxiety is totally up to you and I support you 100%.
So what do you do that helps? What are some triggers that make it worse? I want to hear from you and I want us all to support one another so....
If you have an uplifting message like this:
Or something funny like this:
I want you to share it on Instagram and hashtag it with #Sugarfreeearcandy. We can laugh, cry and get through it together. You are stronger than you think you are, my friend. Promise!