A few (many) years ago my microwave broke. I was a single girl living alone and I thought, screw it. I'm not buying another microwave. I didn't want to spend money on a microwave and it seemed like it would suck to live without it, therefore, I wanted to see if I could do it. Seems pretty lofty, huh? Major world changes going on in my apartment years ago. I lived 6 months without a microwave which doesn't seem like a big deal but I had to use an oven to heat up left over Chinese food and that took MINUTES longer than a microwave.
The point of this aside from wanting to share my microwave story and not really knowing how to work that in anywhere else is this:
GETTING RID OF SHIT THAT YOU DON'T ACTUALLY NEED IN YOUR LIFE.
SHIT being Facebook and I did it. Boom!
Apparently people don't just quit Facebook without a damn good reason. I've gotten a few texts from people wanting to make sure I'm okay. Leaving the good world of Facebook has to come with a good reason so what is it? Am I going through a divorce? Am I sick? Are we having financial troubles? Are we living under a bridge while Chris is having an affair and I'm dying of a rare illness? I hate to disappoint but I simply needed some breathing space. When I've responded with, I just needed a break, it's received with "okay, well, I hope everything is okay!" They don't believe me! (I do appreciate the texts of concern though, for real.)
For those of you who want a little more of an explanation and my view on Facebook please continue reading:
We were on our way down to the beach for our annual trip. I had been working out for months trying to get some muscle on my bones and wouldn't ya know it about two weeks before the beach trip that bitch anxiety gets me and she gets me good. I pretty much stopped working out and therefore quickly lost the little bit of muscle that I had worked months to get. Subconsciously I was thinking 'GREAT and there are going to be pics of my scrawny self on Facebook. Perfect!'
Uhm, hello, Lynsey, who gives a shit? I was on my way to one of my favorite places with some of my favorite people and yet I was thinking about Facebook and what all 800 of my closest friends would think? News flash little Mrs. Self Absorbed Narcissist- no one gives a shit what I look like in my bathing suit except maybe some of Chris' exes or someone who doesn't like me so WHO CARES?
Don't act like y'all haven't thought the same thing...you know you do and that's why you don't allow other people to tag YOU! You have to have control over the perfect little image and life you portray. You have to always look GREAT so people only see you looking GREAT! Have fun keeping up with that.
I should be taking pictures for memories like people used to do in the olden days - you know, when I was a kid 32 years ago.
On the way down I was scrolling Instagram. I came across this #100happydays - look it up - basically, you take a picture every day for 100 days of something that makes you happy. The idea is to stop taking the little things in your life for granted and focus on the things that make you happy.
Simple and brilliant.
I jump on board immediately and post a pic of my mouth breathers from that morning.
Time to flip the idea, what if I took a picture of something that made me unhappy every day? The possibilities thanks to Facebook would be endless and without it I wouldn't know about most of those things.
It's always some stupid crap on Facebook. So and so liked this and not that, this person has a really stupid religious/sports/political/child raising approach/etc. Not that any one of those things is offensive it's just the constant repetition of crap that grates on my nerves.
It is like having the local news from around the entire world on CONSTANTLY.
Sometimes sweet little stories are shared but I swear I saw that some teenager put a puppy in a bag and beat it and I saw that story on repeat. Hi, I have anxiety. I don't need to SEE that this is actually happening. I have an imagination and my imagination is horrific enough.
WHAT in God's name is the point of sharing the most horrific stories? Tell me. I understand sharing that some food is tainted so there is a chance you are about to poison yourself and family or some other product recall but the other "attention grabbers" what's the point? The comments are always the same - "terrible" "awful" "that guy should tortured in prison for the rest of eternity" Really original stuff like that.
At least the religion, sports, and politics can create a conversation so they can have a pass, I guess.
There are many wonderful things about Facebook but that's not what this post is about. I know it isn't all terrible. I know that not every Facebook user is an asshole. I also know that I don't want to know SO MUCH about so many people. Call me naive. Call me what you will. I need my bubble smaller.
Chris doesn't use Facebook. I posted about crap and had Facebook conversations with people and he was clueless as to what was going on. I didn't need to discuss whatever event happened that day with him because I had already done that with hundreds of people on Facebook. I was talked out.
It started reminding me of dare I say, MySpace (GASP!). First the ads, then the cover photo, then the emoticons:
Lynsey is feeling... Cray Cray! - :) <insert picture of me and my friends taking a shot so that people know that even though I'm 32, married and a mom, I'm still a boat load of fun. Ugh. Music for your profile is coming next...just you watch and see!
I know I sound judgey. Don't let me fool you, I'm all up on Instagram and I've even tweeted a few times. I'm not a big Tweeter? because I can't read the damn thing. There are too many # and @ and I can't follow who is talking and what is being talked about.
There is no divorce or affair or any juicy marital issue going on. I'm not dying that I know of, although I'm a bit of a hypochondriac so tell me what you've heard so I can get it checked out.
If anything not having Facebook as a distraction has made my relationships with everyone in my circle so much better! It takes effort to stay in touch and when that happens without a quick "like" the relationship feels higher quality. When you get together with friends you actually have things to catch up on and real conversations instead of who did and liked what on Facebook. Snooze fest.
I'm not saying I'll never be back I'm just saying that for my #100happydays Facebook and I are on a 100 day/maybe permanent break.